Чтобы решить проблемы взаимоотношен

Чтобы решить проблемы взаимоотношений родителей и детей, разрешить конфликтную ситуацию и наладить добрые отношения на основе сотрудничества и конструктивного взаимодействия, нужно собрать «семейный совет» («круглый стол») и начать взрослый, деловой и конструктивный диалог на равных позициях.

Т.е. родителям нужно «отключить» свое менторское, наставническое, сверхзаботливое и попечительское отношение к своим взрослым детям. А последним, перестать относится к родителям, как к устаревшим, ничего непонимающим в современности, с предвзятыми взглядами на жизнь предкам.

Конечно, на первых порах, в налаживании отношений и проведении конструктивного диалога, возможно будет нужна помощь психолога, или другого посредника авторитетного для обеих сторон.

Однако, если у участников «круглого стола», довольно зрелые личности, то они могут попытаться придти к общему знаменателю и сотрудничеству во взаимоотношениях взрослых детей и родителей без посредника.

Главное, чтобы: и у родителей, и у взрослых детей было желание в близких, доброжелательных и уважительных друг к другу отношениях; чтобы жить не конфликтуя и соперничая, а сотрудничая и помогая друг другу.
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Маленькие дети жаждут "качать права" не меньше, чем подростки. Правда, на этом этапе своей жизни они только пробуют "показывать зубки", как бы проверяя реальные границы дозволенного. И все их проявления свободолюбия сводятся к обыкновенному упрямству. Опасность этого периода "конфликта поколений" состоит в том, что нетерпеливые родители сводят все свои усилия по воспитанию к примитивному подчинению. И детей просто "ломают", дабы заставить их не капризничать, а в итоге - не иметь своего мнения. Помнится, как в детстве мне до безумия понравилась одна кукла, и я умоляла маму купить ее. Она не хотела, говоря: «у тебя и так игрушек полно». Ну неужели нельзя понять, что никакие больше игрушки не нужны, кроме этой кудрявой куклы в розовом платьице! Как и у большинства детей дошкольного возраста, вслед за словом «нет» последовала истерика. В данном случае у родителя есть два метода борьбы: наказать и поставить в угол, сказав, что за подобное поведение никаких подарков не будет вообще, либо постараться объяснить, что ребенок обязательно получит желанную куклу в ближайший праздник, как и поступила моя мама. Однако нельзя всегда придерживаться одной реакции на поведение ребенка, иначе есть риск либо напугать и подавить, либо избаловать и тем самым стереть грань допустимого.

Результаты (английский) 1:

To solve the problem of relations between parents and children, resolve a conflict situation and establish good relations on the basis of cooperation and constructive engagement to collect "family Council" (round table) and start an adult business and constructive dialogue on equal positions. I.e., parents need to "disable" its mentorskoe, nastavničeskoe, sverhzabotlivoe and institutional attitude to their adult children. And the last stop refers to parents how to legacy, nothing in reality of modernity, with biased views on the life of the ancestors. Of course, at first, to build trust and constructive dialogue, will probably need the help of a psychologist or another credible for both sides. However, if the participants of the round table, quite mature personalities, they may try to come to a common denominator and cooperation in the relations between adult children and parents without a mediator. The main thing is that: and their parents and adult children was to close, cordial and respectful to each other; to live is not conflicting and competing and cooperating and helping each other.19:40:18Babies crave "swing right" not less than teenagers. However, at this stage of their lives they only try to show its teeth, "as would checking real boundaries. And all their manifestations of freedom are reduced to simple stubbornness. The danger of this period "the conflict of generations is that impatient parents nullify all efforts to educate a primitive subordination. And children just "break" in order to get them not to fuss, but in the end not to have an opinion. I remember as a kid I liked to madness one doll, and I begged my mom to buy it. She didn't want to, saying: "you have and so full of toys. Well really it is impossible to understand, that no more toys are not needed, except that curly doll in a pink dress! Like most children of preschool age, followed by the word "no" followed by hysterical. In this case a parent there are two methods of struggle: to punish and put in a corner by saying that for such behaviour will not be any presents at all or try to explain that the child will receive the coveted doll in the nearest holiday as she entered my mom. However, you cannot always stick to one reaction to the child's behavior, otherwise there is a risk or frighten and subdue or spoil, and thereby erase line.

Результаты (английский) 2:

To solve the problem of relations between parents and children to resolve conflict situations and establish good relations based on cooperation and constructive interaction, it is necessary to collect a "family council" ("round table") and start an adult, businesslike and constructive dialogue on equal positions. That is, parents need to "turn off" their mentor, mentoring, and sverhzabotlivoe caregiver's attitude to their adult children. A last stop treating parents as outdated, nothing uncomprehending in the present, with preconceived views on life ancestors. Of course, at first, to establish relations and conduct a constructive dialogue might need help of a psychologist, or other intermediary authoritative for both the parties. However, if the participants of the "round table", a fairly mature personality, then they can try to come to a common denominator, and cooperation in the relations between adult children and parents without a mediator. The main thing is to: the parents and adult children had the desire to family friendly and respectful relationship to each other; to live without conflicting and competing and cooperating and helping each other. 19:40:18 Young children are eager to "swing right" is not less than the teenagers. However, at this stage of their lives, they just try to "show teeth", as if checking the real beyond the limits. And all their manifestations of freedom are reduced to ordinary stubbornness. The danger of this period of "conflict of generations" is that impatient parents reduce all its efforts on education to primitive submission. And children simply "break" in order to force them not to be capricious, and as a result - not to have an opinion. I remember as a child I loved to distraction one doll, and I begged my mom to buy it. She did not want to say, "do you, and so full of toys." Well, I do not understand that no more than toys are not necessary, except for this curly doll in a pink dress! As with most pre-school children, followed by the word "no" was followed by hysterical. In this case, the parent has two methods of struggle: to punish and put in a corner, saying that in such behavior will not be any gifts at all, or to try to explain that the child is required to get the desired doll in the coming holiday as my mother arrived. But you can not always stick to the same reaction to the behavior of the child, otherwise there is the risk of a scare and suppress or pamper and thus blur the line permissible.

Результаты (английский) 3:

to solve the problem of relations between parents and children to resolve conflict and to establish good relations of cooperation and constructive engagement.we need to have a "family room (round table), and start up a business and a constructive dialogue on an equal position.

). parents need to "отключить» its менторское, наставническое,сверхзаботливое and попечительское attitude to their adult children. and the last stop is the parents as obsolete, it непонимающим in modern times, with the biased views on the lives of our ancestors.

of course, at first, to establish relations and conduct a constructive dialogue, will probably need counseling or other intermediary authoritative for both parties.

however,if the participants of the round table, is a mature person, they may try to come to a common denominator, and cooperation in the relationship between adult children and parents without an intermediary.

as long as:and the parents and adult children was the desire to close, supportive and respectful to each other relations; to live not конфликтуя and соперничая, cooperating and helping each other.
19: 40: 18.small children are "get right" not less than teenagers. really, at this stage in their lives they are trying to "show the teeth", as in the real line.and all their manifestations are the basic свободолюбия stubbornness. the danger of this period, "the conflict of generations" iswhat impatient parents make all their efforts to educate to primitive subservience. and the children just "guessing" in order to make them not to be cranky, but in the end not to have opinions. i remember