- Привет.- Привет.- О чём задумалас

- Привет.
- Привет.
- О чём задумалась?
- В последнее время много говорят о семьях. Но почему-то мало кто задумывается, под какими механизмами строятся отношения в семье.
- Да, действительно. Психологи выделяют 6 основных параметров семейной системы. Это стереотипы взаимодействия, семейные правила, семейные мифы, границы семьи, стабилизаторы семьи и семейная история.
- Я слышала про стереотипы взаимодействия. Под ними понимают сообщения, которыми члены семьи обмениваются друг с другом. Сообщением в семье является любое событие. Их также делят на два типа - совпадающие и расходящиеся.
- Да. Например, радость на лице, в голосе и словах, также и печаль – конгруэнтный характер. Когда стереотипы взаимодействия носят конгруэнтный характер, тогда все события в семье являются ясными и понятными, также и эмоции и взаимоотношения. При этом происходит свободный эмоциональный обмен, семья способна вырабатывать здравые решения, в ней царит мир и спокойствие.
- Именно. Но как действуют на семью семейные правила?
- Очень просто. В каждой семье существуют свои правила жизни. Они делятся на гласные и негласные, о которых все знают, по которым все живут, но которые не озвучиваются либо не сознаются. Если речь идёт о гласных правилах, то по ним договориться легко. Если они не озвучены, подчинения негласны, люди делают вид, что правил нет. Важно выявить не только гласные, но негласные правила.
- Ещё правила семейной жизни касаются всех областей жизни. Часть вырабатывается внутри семьи, часть вносится в семью культурально. Правила касаются распределения ролей в семье. Они достаточно противоречивы. С одной стороны, есть правило, что муж – глава семьи, с другой стороны – есть правило равноправия между мужчиной и женщиной. Правила определяют борьбу за власть внутри семьи и определяют семейную дисфункцию.
- Но одно из наиболее интересующих меня направлений - это семейные мифы. Можешь рассказать про них?
- Могу. Это сложное семейное знание, часто плохо осознаваемое, которое складывается из совокупности семейных правил, сформировавшихся в течение, как минимум, трех поколений и которые являются, как бы, продолжением фразы "Мы – это...". Обычно в функциональной семье миф находится очень глубоко. Чем более семья становится дисфункциональной, тем больше начинает просыпаться миф. Миф не всегда является дисфункциональным. Он может быть вполне естественным и определяться теми условиями, где живёт семья. Но если в первом поколении он воспринимается нормально, то к третьему он может стать болезненным для кого-то из членов семьи.
- Понятно. Я получила много новой информации для себя. Мне нужно подумать. Пока.
- Мне тоже. Пока.

Результаты (английский) 1:

-Hi.-Hi.-What to think?Recently a lot of talk about families. But for some reason few people think, under what arrangements the relationship within the family.-Yes, indeed. Psychologists distinguish 6 basic parameters of family system. This interaction stereotypes, family rules, family myths, borders family, stabilizers family and family history.-I heard about stereotypes of interaction. Under them understand messages family members communicate with one another. A family is any event. They are also divided into two types-matching and divergent.-Yes. For example, the joy on his face, voice and lip, and also sadness-congruent in nature. When stereotypes interaction are congruent in nature, then all events within the family are clear and understandable, and emotions and relationships. When this happens the emotional, families exchange free is able to produce sensible decisions in her peace and tranquillity reigns.-Exactly. But as the Act on the family family rules?-Very easy. Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and undercover, which everyone knows, in which they all live, but who did not hear or did not confess. If we are talking about vowel rules, agree easily. If they are not announced, subordination, neglasny people are pretending that there are no rules. It is important to identify not only the vowels, but unspoken rules.-Even rule family life affect all areas of life. Part of it is produced within the family part is entered into the cultural family. Rules relating to the distribution of roles within the family. They are quite contradictory. On the one hand, there is a rule that the husband is the head of the family, on the other hand, there is the rule of equality between man and woman. Rules define the power struggle within the family and determine family dysfunction.-But one of the most interesting destinations-this family myths. Can you tell us about them?-Can. This complex family knowledge, often poorly aware of which is composed of the totality of family rules, established for at least three generations and which are, as it were, a continuation of the phrase "We are ...". Usually in a functional family myth is very deep. The more dysfunctional family becomes, the more it begins to wake up to the myth. The myth is not necessarily dysfunctional. It can be quite natural and determined the conditions where his family. But if in the first generation, he fine, is perceived by the third it could be painful for someone from the family members.-Clear. I got a lot of new information for yourself. I need to think. So long.-Me too. So long.

Результаты (английский) 2:

- Hi.
- Hi.
- What are you thinking about?
- Lately, a lot of talk about families. But for some reason, few people think, under what mechanisms are the relations in the family.
- Yes indeed. Psychologists are 6 main parameters of the family system. This interaction stereotypes, family rules, family myths, family boundaries, family stabilizers and family history.
- I heard about the stereotypes of interaction. Under them understand the messages that are exchanged between family members with each other. The message is in the family of any event. They are also divided into two types - coincident and divergent.
- Yes. For example, the joy on his face, in his voice and words, and also sadness - congruent character. When the interaction patterns are congruent in nature, then all events in the family are clear and understandable, and also the emotions and relationships. Thus there is a free emotional exchange, the family is able to develop robust solutions, there is peace and tranquility.
- Exactly. But how are family family rules?
- Very simple. Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into public and secret, which everybody knows, which all live, but that is not voiced or not confess. When it comes to the rules of vowels, then it is easy to arrange. If they are not made public, behind the scenes of submission, people pretend that there are no rules. It is important to identify not only the vowels, but the unspoken rules.
- More rules of family life affect all areas of life. Part produced within the family, the part paid to the family culturally. Rules relating to the distribution of roles in the family. They are quite contradictory. On the one hand, there is a rule that the husband - the head of the family, on the other hand - is the rule of equality between men and women. Rules define the struggle for power within the family and determine family dysfunction.
- But one of the most interesting trends I - a family myths. Can you tell us about them?
- I can. This is a complex family knowledge, often poorly aware, which is composed of a set of family rules, mature for at least three generations and which are, as it were, a continuation of the phrase "We are - is ...". Usually, functional family myth is very deep. The more the family becomes dysfunctional, the more the myth begins to wake up. Myth is not always dysfunctional. It can be quite natural and is determined by the conditions in which the family lives. But if it is perceived normally in the first generation, then to the third, he could be painful for someone from family members.
- Clear. I got a lot of new information for themselves. I need to think. Till.
- Me too. Till.